The Thing with Weddings

Hi guise,

It's the no comic edition again. So scram if you dislike no comic entries.

I wanna talk about weddings.

To be honest, I don't do wedding that well. By 'doing' I mean going. When you reach my age, wedding invitation is almost like a weekly affair. Somebody has to get married on every weekend. Which is understandable. It's the only time slot other than school holidays where people can actually spend time travelling to weddings.

When you invite me to a wedding, you have to know that I'm an infamous no show. Chances of me attending your wedding is as slim as me shedding 10 kg in 1 month; possible but requires dedication and tonnes of praying. Anyway.. Why is it so hard for me to attend wedding? Do I dislike weddings? Honestly, yes.. I dislike weddings. Hate is a big word so I think dislike would be more appropriate.

There are so many good things about wedding. The foods are amazing! If you go to an east coast weddings, you are going for a treat. Gulai kawah is like the most amazing thing you can find. Especially if they mix in the lungs. Arghh, that's the best part! And the sambal belacan is different from the usual ones you get for lunch. I don't know, maybe it's special only to me. I love wedding feast.. chunky meat in coconut gravy, feisty sambal, crispy ikan kering, masak lemak nangka and so many more. The list goes on and on.

The next best thing about wedding is the goodie bag, the door gift. I love it back in the days we used to get telur pindang as door gift. Nowadays you get can get so much more. a cup, a handkerchief, sweets, bahulu and sometimes, sejadah. But to me, getting the hard boiled eggs are much more satisfying than getting inedible items.

Enough about the good things. I can't think of any other good things anyway. WHY DO I DISLIKE GOING TO WEDDING?

THE CROWD

It's not a secret that I hate crowded places. I've written about this more than twice. I'm sorry if I bore you with my on going rant about crowd. It's not just about being around strangers. It's about not having control over your personal space. I can spend time watching movies in a room full of strangers and that doesn't bother me because everybody is seated to their designated place. I have a control over my personal space. It's different when you're not seated and just roaming around. Now imagine that setup in a group of friendly old people who would go up to you to salam which usually comes together with a wet peck on your cheek, warm hug and the socially accepted personal question; "Bila ko pulak nak kahwin".. Yeah yeah fun.

THE HEAT
I think it's only natural to avoid having a banquet during rainy season which is even worse. But it's weird how hot it can be during most wedding feast. It's usually held just after Zohor when the sun is shining ever so brightly. Some organizer would bring in fans and mist blower to help with heat. But it's just unbearable. Masa camni macam-macam bau ada.. Bau badan ngan bau ikan kering pun dekat sama je, lol. Sorry melawak je. Sebab lain kenapa panas sangat adalah perangai orang kita yang suka memenuhi ruang tamu tempat bersanding sampai bersesak-sesak. Suka lepak situ sampai sendat. Sometimes it feels like you are in an oven, waiting to be slowly steamed to death. Ok, exaggerate sangat hah.

WEEKEND FILLER
Sometimes it's not the wedding itself is the issue. Sometimes it's my own schedule. Tak semua orang free hujung minggu. Sure you can assume that everyone will make way for your wedding but not everyone has the privilege to do what they want with their weekends. Seriously though. I am not even married but my weekend is usually taken away from me by my work and classes. Kalau orang berkeluarga lagi la hujung minggu ni la nak berjalan dengan anak-anak. Nak-nak kalau kenduri tu kat luar kawasan. Nak kena travel jauh-jauh untuk menyahut jemputan. Aku minta maaf tapi lepas accident masa on the way pergi kenduri budak ofis dulu memang aku ada trauma bab driving kat Karak. So kalau korang punya kenduri luar KL dan terpaksa lalu Karak, memang besar kemungkinan aku takleh pergi.

It seems like I have a lot of excuses for not going to weddings. Mak aku selalu marah sebab takut takde orang datang time aku kahwin nanti dan aku taknak cakap besar cakap tak kesah kalau orang tak datang. Honestly it is sad when people don't come to your wedding. It's the time to celebrate the bride. It's the time to welcome a new member of the family. Of course you'd feel offended when people don't want to celebrate your special day. But it is also not okay to hate someone for not going to your wedding. Everybody has their own reason for not going to your wedding. Sometimes it's not personal and if it is personal, what can you about it?

Let's chill.

Adieu

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